Introduction: Estate Planning, Tax Planning or Family Planning? 1 Communication within the Family 2 Communicating about the Present 3 Talking about the Future 4 Talking about the Past 5 Harmony through Constructive Communication in Conflictive Situations 6 The Three Steps of Family Planning Conclusion: Towards Sustainable Shareholdership and Family Harmony About the Authors Short BibliographyThis book discusses communication about the important and sensitive issue of estate planning within the family.Every person with money and assets worries about the future: after I pass away, what will happen with the money and valuables? The real estate and the company? Estate planning is a broad area of law where private law, tax law, corporate law and private international law blend together.Grammar of the Wealthy Family discusses communication about these important and sensitive issues within the family. Traditionally, the answers are framed top-down, within the leading generation’s tunnel vision: the head of the family decides what the future should look like. Can such planning, strictly implementing the wishes of the head of the family, be sustainable?We think a wise and mature estate planning should contribute to the flourishing of both the estate and the members of the family. Estate planning should be a bottom-up family planning, taking into account the dreams and wishes of all family members, embedded in a shared vision, mission and strategy for the family and its wealth, also for future generations.In our view, traditional estate and tax planning is only the third and last step in the process towards sustainable shareholdership. It is preceded by firstly preparing the family and secondly having the family negotiate their shared values and mission. This requires families to be educated in a process of genuine open dialogue and reflection.The authors are Family & Business Dynamics - Governance senior experts at the Greenille Private Client Team of Deloitte Legal ( Belgium, NSE), and lead the KU Leuven Centre for Business Families.