In this book, Dotinga encourages readers to strive for self-awareness and acceptance rather than weight loss. She explains that our bodies send signals that are often ignored, which can lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms such as overeating. It is essential to listen to these signals and recognize our bodies as intelligent beings trying to tell us something.A key message of the book is that overweight is not simply a matter of diet or exercise, but rather a symptom of unresolved experiences and emotions. The body remembers what the mind tries to suppress. Dotinga advocates an approach of love and understanding rather than self-criticism.The “core” is described as the place where true self-acceptance and self-love begins. Restoring this connection is important, especially when we feel overwhelmed by external demands. This core provides a source of strength and stability, which helps us embrace ourselves, including our weight and the emotions that come with it.Dotinga emphasizes that changes in our bodies often reflect changes in our mental and emotional state.